After a divorce, being able to co-parent successfully is important for your children. Having both of their parents remain present in their lives is beneficial, as it gives them the stability they need to thrive. However, that does not mean that it will be an easy process. It can be difficult to adjust to co-parenting after a divorce, but it is possible to do so gracefully.
BTR Law wants you to succeed at co-parenting. Try following these tips to provide your children with the parenting experience they deserve.
Start an Open Conversation
Having frequent, open, and honest conversations with your ex-spouse will be critical when co-parenting. In these discussions, you will have the opportunity to update each other on your children and their lives. For example, maybe there is an important event happening at school. These regularly scheduled talks will allow you to both continue being an active part of your child’s life.
Establish Consistent Rules
It can be easy to slip into the “fun parent” and “serious parent” dynamic. However, you should work together to create and maintain the same rules and expectations at both houses. This will allow your children to know what to expect regardless of which parent’s house they are at. For example, if bedtime is 8 PM at one house, it should be the same at the other parent’s house. These routines will give your children stability.
Have A Positive Mindset
The co-parenting process can bring about stress and worry for anyone; yet, it is important to keep a positive attitude for your children. This includes avoiding saying anything negative about your ex-spouse in front of them. This type of talk can backfire on you, negatively impacting your relationship with your kids. Furthermore, if your children say anything negative about your ex-spouse, commit to correcting these statements in a healthy and positive way.
Co-Parenting or Custody Issues?
While you should make an effort in co-parenting, sometimes slip-ups occur. If you encounter any issues with your fellow co-parent or custody agreement, having an attorney can help. The team at BTR Law is here to provide you with assistance if you need it.